When you are in the moment of a bad friendship it is kind of hard to see until you are in too deep. I have experienced having toxic friends, and I learn a new lesson every time. I don’t believe in holding grudges on past friends, but sometimes friendships don’t work out, and that is fine. But keeping toxic friends doesn’t help your self-esteem and mental health. So here are some of the signs of a bad friendship. I like to add, friendships can change, so don’t believe you can’t fix them.
It’s one-sided
If you feel like you have to do everything to be with a friend, then it means it’s one-sided. Friendships have to be balanced, not one giving more energy than the other. It shouldn’t feel that you need to do more to be friends with that person. It takes two to tango and not one person carrying the weight. You can care so much about someone, but you can’t be with a friend that expects you to do everything to be in the friendship.
They like to hide your friendship
When someone is hiding a friendship, they act as though you are not friends in public. They may even seem as if they don’t know you. It depends if they usually have a shy personality, but if you notice a pattern of them seeming distanced in public, then that is a sign. Sometimes you will notice they do it to everyone, and that is just their personality. But it does not mean they should act that way to people.
Can’t communicate feelings without arguing
It can be hard to communicate your feelings to a friend that upsets you. So when a friend feels that you are attacking them or it turns into an argument, you shouldn’t be in a friendship with them. I have noticed that when you tell someone how they made you feel, they should be able to understand more about the way they treated you. They shouldn’t automatically think you are attacking them when you are expressing how you feel. This can lead to you being afraid to express what upsets you in other friendships.
Controlling
Having a controlling friend makes you feel that you can’t do anything without the friend telling you what to do. If your friend is constantly judging your decisions and your opinions, they’re disrespecting your values. It can seem as if they don’t like who you are and want to change you to what they want you to be. You shouldn’t have friends that want you to be a certain way but yourself.
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