Projection

When projection comes to mind, I think of a person that can’t handle their emotional burden, so they project it out to others. They like to think if I’m doing it, then everyone is doing it to cope with the guilt they have with that situation. Not only is this unhealthy for them, but it can cause the people around them to feel sensitive and defensive. Even though the people around them feel this way, they wouldn’t think someone is projecting their emotions onto them. They question their feelings toward the situation. And either taking the other’s projections.  

Have you ever noticed that when someone says something mean about others, it tends to be a reflection on them? For example, when someone calls people who live with their parents a loser, while their parents help them with rent. It shows that the person feels deep insecurity of needing help from their parents. Other examples are when people insult others. It displays their insecurities and how they feel towards themselves.

Knowing that insults are just other people’s reflection of what they think about themselves clears your minds and not let an insult bother you. We have to think about why they are saying this and not quick to react. It’s hard to think about how the other person feels when you are not in the right state of mind. So taking a break understanding what’s happening helps show a little empathy for that person, allowing you to feel not as hurt about that insult. After you come to that realization, it is good to set boundaries with the person and remove yourself from the situation.